Why are men attracted to men
“Growing up, I used to always think something was off about me. I never understood the attraction to women as the boys would describe it,” Quin May, a year-old cook from Mississippi, United States, told VICE.
May said he was attracted to women, but not in the same way other guys he knew were.
“[Boys] would praise [girls’ physical] attributes and I would just agree with them because it was normal and everyone would get suspicious if I thought otherwise. As I progressed through high school, I soon came to the realization that I was sexually attracted to men and emotionally attracted to women,” he said.
People who name as straight are attracted to the opposite gender, while people who identify as gay or lesbian are attracted to the same gender. Those who recognize as bisexual are attracted to more than one gender, and people who identify as pansexual are attracted to people regardless of gender. Usually, who you’re attracted to is the similar in both the sexual and emotional sense, but not always.
For some people, like May, sexual and emotional attraction are split across sexes a
About gay male sexuality
Many men describe that they had experiences with people of the same sex when they were young. This is often a normal part of exploring their sexuality. Men who go on to portray themselves as ‘same-sex attracted’ or ‘gay’ have a strong physical and emotional attraction to men that they don’t usually sense for women.
Being a gay human is natural
There is a lot of pressure from society for young men to be heterosexual or ‘straight’. This can often cause feelings of isolation for young men who are gay and make them scared to show their sexuality.
It’s vital to remember:
- There are gay men in every culture and every country.
- Being gay is just a form of sexuality.
Why some men are gay
There is no actual explanation as to why some men are gay and others are not. Although there is no right or wrong address to the question, a doable reason suggested by researchers is that we are born with our sexual orientation.
Knowing whether you’re gay
There is no test or questionnaire you can complete that will answer this question for you. If you think you might be
Why do some straight men verb sex with other men?
According to nationally-representative surveys in the United States, hundreds of thousands of straight-identified men have had sex with other men.
In the recent book Still Straight: Sexual Flexibility among White Men in Rural America released today, UBC sociologist Dr. Tony Silva argues that these men – many of whom enjoy hunting, fishing and shooting guns – are not closeted, bisexual or just experimenting.
After interviewing 60 of these men over three years, Dr. Silva found that they enjoy a range of relationships with other men, from hookups to sexual friendships to secretive loving partnerships, all while strongly identifying with straight culture.
We spoke with Dr. Silva about his book.
Why undertake straight-identified men have sex with other men?
The majority of the men I interviewed reported that they are primarily attracted to women, not men. Most of these men are also married to women and prefer to have sex with women. They explained that although they loved their wives, their marital sex lives were not as active as they
Re: hate myself for being attracted to men
Unread postby Sam W »
Hi Lyle Lanley,
If you've had traumatic experiences with men, or you've found that being physical with men in the past has left you feeling pretty crummy, then I can see why you experience like pursuing a relationship with men as a category isn't for you. Even though dating a specific man doesn't automatically mean being unsafe or being disrespected or having to surrender part of your identity (those things can, sadly, happen with a partner of any gender), if your instinct in a relationship would be that you had to do those things, that dating men right now, or ever, might not be the best choice for you.
I do want to ask where you think the guilt element of this might be coming from. In other words, what about being attracted to men is leading you to feel guilty?
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